I used to always wonder as to why being a Mazlom (the oppressed) was approximately as wrong as being a Zalim (the oppressor). For sure I am not a scholar but I read, researched and discovered a strangely direct connection between a person who is a Mazloom and the one who is a Zalim. Just in Sahih Bukhari, there are about 43 hadiths in regards to a Zalim (oppressor). A Zalim (oppressor) is any individual who uses his powers given by Allah (SWT) to oppress others. Therefore helping an oppressor is from the gravest of sin which leads to nothing but disaster. People should not imitate an oppressor on the contrary must try to prevent him from doing evil . This is an obligation on all Muslims.
Narrated Anas: Allah’s Apostle said, “Help your brother, whether he is an oppressor or he is an oppressed one. People asked, “O Allah’s Apostle! It is all right to help him if he is oppressed, but how should we help him if he is an oppressor?” The Prophet said, “By preventing him from oppressing others.”(Bukhari)
How is this possible? And how do we understand this? I found a psychological fact relating to this subject which helped me understand the hadith mentioned above.
Firstly I had to analyze the connection between a Mazloom and a Zalim. For that I had to understand 3 different kinds of people.
1. A Passive person – who values others and shows no value to himself.
2. A Assertive person – who values others and values himself & is very grateful.
3. A Aggressive person – who values only himself. No value is given to anyone else and is always in a state of denial & deceit which further leads to a severe mental disorder.
Let me explain further:-
1. A Passive person categorizes a Mazloom (the oppressed). They allow themselves to become a punching bag. No one can be abused or oppressed, unless they allow it themselves. Their personalities & self-esteem can be oppressed with the justification that “I am among those who are patient & obedient” or “I have no way out”. A wrongfully understood concept. Patience doesn’t come with oppression; it comes with Haq (Justice) & Gratefulness.
Surah Wal-Asr: “Except such as have Faith, and do righteous deeds, and (join together) on Justice(Truth) and (join together) in Patience (Constancy)”.
The Passive/Mazloom (oppressed) are just like springs which can be pressed and pressed, but once the hand is removed they skip straight from being a ‘Passive person’ into the 3rdcategory of becoming an ‘Aggressive person’ (which is the personality of a Zalim). Unfortunately, it is entirely this individuals fault as he decides to leap into aggression. This is because the individual’s Iman (belief) level has gone way below. It is entirely a self-weakness and it is sad as this person leads to a life of denial, deceit, suspicion and self-destruction.
Aggression is a part and parcel personality of a Zalim (oppressor). A person who values only himself/herself and nothing else matters but their obsessions. Over protection and self-security becomes a major question in their mind; the method to achieve his goal could be right or wrong; it doesn’t matter any more. That’s the reason the Quran and our Prophet (SAW) have condemned to be a Mazloom (oppressed) or be a Zalim (oppressor). The Quran and ways of the Prophet (SAW) teach us how to deal with any situation, it’s just that we don’t read and research and implement.
Abu Bakr said: “I have heard the Messenger of Allah saying: ‘…when people see a Zalim (oppressor) but do not prevent him from (doing evil), it is likely that Allah will punish them all”. [Abu Daawood & At-Tirmithi]
2. An Assertive person will be recognized as they value others and value themselves. Such a person will have a ‘Positive’ attitude towards life. They will be transparent by character. Their GRATEFUL & JUST character will speak louder than words. Even if there is an all ‘Negative’ surrounding, they will search and find ‘The Positive’ way out. They could never imitate a Zalim (oppressor). They would surely fear Allah and the curse of the Mazloom (oppressed).
Narrated by Ibn ‘Abbas: The Prophet sent Mu’adh to Yemen and said, “Be afraid, from the curse of the Mazloom (oppressed) as there is no screen between his invocation and Allah.”(Bukhari)
3. An Aggressive person is all about his superiority, his ego, his obsessions and his values concern only for this dunya; there is no compromise. It’s easy to recognize them, as most often you will see them justify the behavior of a Zalim (oppressor) and if by any chance are opposed will exhibit extreme ‘Aggression/Zulm’ which will ruin all goodness around them. In fact they come to a state that lying and deceit is all justified in their own way. Their method of making a point, would simply be abusive and oppressive. How can someone who claims to love and care cross the limits of aggression. Atleast not in the name of Islam.
May Allah the ‘Almighty’ help us from being from the Zalim or the Mazloom. May HE make us Assertive Muslims, who would enjoin Haq (truth + justice) and when ‘Tested’ would enjoin Patience. With this formula the end results would always be Positive….InshaAllah.
Find out for yourself “WHO AM I?”
I take this opportunity to share these two heedful advises given by 1. Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan – Abuse and Individuality. 2. Shafi Chowdry on Oppression & Abuse.